72 Secrets to Happiness





October 4, 2014

Fussion mean blending the  best from two seperate but great cultures or disciplines.
 I have been reading Brainstorm by Daniel J. Siegel and find his exercise called Wheel of Awareness to be a perfect match for learning and using the 72 Secrets.

The Wheel of Awareness is a mental tool which helps your focus and concentration.  In so doing it makes learning easier, and in my opinion, actually raises your IQ.

Google it and you can learn and practice it for free.

January 23, 2014

Since I started this blog, over 2 years ago, I was in an accident involving me on a motor scooter trying to save the world's eco system, and an air force officer driving a very large SUV and obviously serving our country. The most important outcome, other than still being alive, is not taking life as seriously and just enjoying every moment of every day.

I have discovered that even while being engaged by the most mundane or what used to be frustrating tasks, I can enjoy boring and frustrating and hard living equally with the rare but more appealing good times. ie. enjoy driving in rush hour on the way to a play without the rush hour ruining the night. Instead I enjoy the safety of slow driving and the extra time for conversation with Amy or my favorite music. Life and being alive is miraculous, no other animal or living thing contemplates good or evil.

Consciousness alone is far more real and mysterious than our speculation of how consciousness came about or why. There is so much more to life than current science or accumulated human understanding can explain or even speculate on that saying this or that is true is silly if not narcissistic. 

June 9, 2013

I do not believe that religious or spiritual folks are foolish
or even that they are not on the right path. It does not happen to be my path but I would be the last to judge anyone since I am convinced that judgment is only use against the person making a judgment. I have said and I believe that what is written in this blog should be useful to the faithful as well as the faithless. By all means if you are happy with your belief system then stick with it, the information in this blog can only strengthen you and make you a better Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, Agnostic, Atheist or what ever.

July 30, 2012 

wisperingPlease do not think that any of these secrets originated from me.  I have practiced using all of them, and for me they work.  I did not invent this material it is not based on fiction. I simply report on what I have read and believe the original creators of this wisdom were trying to convey. 

From time to time I add additional commentary on these 72 secrets.  These secrets were understood over 4000 years ago, they explain step by step how our human mind effects us all. 

These secrets are actually laws of the mind as certain as the law of gravity is to the physical world.  They are not guidelines or suggestions; they are simply facts about mental processes which if you do not obey; the outcome is completely predictable.  You will not be able to find happiness or peace of mind without following these mental rules.  These secrets are a road map and guide to finding personal happiness and even the meaning of life.

The reason they are secret is because back in the days when they were developed, rules and conquerors did not want people to be smart or resourceful because then they might want to be free of the mental chains that religion and laws of the land create.  People were seen more like a heard of animals to be owned and worked for the glory of the ruling class so anyone studying these secrets and particularly anyone teaching these secrets were put to death. 

Story behind the72 Names - June 2, 2012

As I go back over these secrets I am adding the Hebrew name of each secret.  There are those who believe that just staring at or meditating on the Hebrew letters helps them understand and utilize each secret.

If there is any truth to this then it may be that our minds use these letters to categorize and store these secrets as a sort of index.  If it works for you then it does not matter how it works.

There is a fascinating story behind where and how these Hebrew letters were found.  

Quoted from http://kabbalahnames.com/72-names-of-god:

It is thought that the original writes of these versus hid the names in this story because the meanings were too powerful and also because the rulers of that time would consider these names a threat and kill anyone who taught or repeated anything of this nature since most rulers at that time were considered gods themselves and did not tolerate any other beliefs.

For History buffs these verses were found in the Dead Sea Scrolls and every Hebrew letter is exactly the same as in the modern Hebrew bible with no changes.

Only in the last century were these 72 three letter words ( called names of God by the writers ) discovered and researched as to their meanings.  I believe that what the writes meant by names of GOD was laws to mental health and well being creating such happiness and fulfillment that could only have been a gift from a god like intelligence to man.

Consciousness - March 10, 2012

I am adding a little extra understanding to these secrets by quoting from the Daily Dharma: Walking the Natural Path with an Open Mind by Shanjian Dashi and Jueshan Mensheng, which explains consciousness.  All we are and all we do is based on our consciousness so an understanding of it can make all these secrets and explanations just a little clearer.

Q: What is consciousness?  It's not the same thing conscience is for Christians, i.e., our response to what's good and bad, is it?

A: In Buddha Dharma, consciousness is the awareness that something is happening.  It's the only place where you know that something occurs.  When you know that you are seeing, or that your are receiving something from outside, that's consciousness; when you have experiences, that's consciousness; when you think, that's consciousness.

Consciousness is like the screen on a computer, it's where you know something is going on; it's where you see yourself (an illusion).  That's the reason why some people erroneously believe that consciousness is who they are, which is as ridiculous as believing that the screen is the computer.  There's a keyboard (your senses), a hard drive (your memory), and an operating system (your genetic program); there's your own nature as a foundation; and there are application programs you learn.  There's also a virus: duality, which infects the memory and the applications and shows up on the screen.  And there's also a false operating program installed in our system.

Just goes to show that there is a lot more going on in your head than most of us thought.  We can all use a little help navigating the mental jungle we have been put in and these secrets and my blog are a kind of road map to life and finding happiness.

Certainty - January 29, 2012

I was reading from True Prosperity, by Yehuda Berg, on the same day as I was studying the secret of Certainty.  They both said essentially the same thing.  Certainty is the power cord for everything including the 72 Secrets on this site..  Without certainty, these secrets are like Black and Decker Power Tools without batteries or electricity. 

Certainty is knowing that what you are going in the right direction and that it is working.  You cannot magically receive certainty or confidence, particularly if you do not already have any.

There is a  saying, "Quitters never win and Winners never quit."  You must try these secrets over and over until you know that they work. And you need to use baby steps and lots of them over a long period of time.  That is the goal, it is not about speed or talent, it is about finishing.

Happiness is not just for the few or privileged but for every single one of us, including you.  It just takes baby steps and time, but if you never enter the race you will never reach the goal.

Mind - January 21, 2012

The difference between good ideas that create a better safer life and bad ideas that create chaos and death are controlled by one simple thing.  Intent - good is for everyone - evil is for self alone.  Most of us spend 99% of our awake conscious mind thinking about our personal welfare. 

I would not go so far as to say that self alone is evil but it is bad for us and particularly for the world at large.  Team work and sharing are essential to happiness, civilization, and life itself.  When we spend so much time thinking only of ourselves and our personal needs we neglect our family and friends.

We have very little control over our nature and instincts so it is important for us to recognize the destructive tendencies we possess so that we can increase our co-operation with others and care about their needs who will in return care more about yours.  We do not have to be slaves to our nature and by reading self help material such as this and making an effort we can become masters of our fate.

It is not necessary to turn things around so that we give 99% of the time and only take 1% for ourselves, but if we can increase our giving even in the smallest way we are over coming our destructive and selfish ways and with time we will find the right level.  That will be when we are happy all the time and it will be different for each of us.  It may be 25-75 or 20-80 or 15-85 or 10-90 but according to ancient wisdom, true happiness is usually around 15-85.  15% giving to others and 85% protecting and taking for ourselves.

And do not confuse this with the Church and Tithing.  It may be one way for certain individuals but for most, tithing is an obligation and giving cannot be an obligation it must be selfless and with no strings or rewards.  You cannot give, expecting good things or your expectation ruins the giving.

An example of correct giving is when a parent gives cloths and food and presents to his child, it is out of love and giving.  And it take some practice because when you first start trying to give a little it does not work because you are forcing yourself to do something you would not normally do.  But with time if you keep giving a little, and especially if it is a very small increase over your norm, then it will begin to feel good and you will be happy without the expectation of more.

This giving can be money, or time, or creation, or food.  It should not be directed to close friends or families only because that is often a selfish motive; hoping to get along with those around us - sort of like favors.  Favors are not giving.  The purest form of giving is to someone who does not know you and does not know where the giving came from. 

But you do not need to be the best most creative giver for it to work, any giving in any amount for any purpose that is given out of caring and unselfish needs, will work.  Giving the right of way to someone on your left who was not paying attention and was in a hurry and cut in front of you, without your displaying anger or honking; would be a very good thing and you might even feel happiness instead of anger because of how controlled you were.

Here is the thing, that 99% selfish thing is a natural reaction and that 1% giving part is intellectual evaluation of the situation to see if the anger is really beneficial.  It could be that the person who cut you off should be warned of their carelessness so they do not hurt someone and if it happens that it was your neighbor in the car you may decide to later have a word with them when you are calm.  This is also a form of giving, if you do not know the person then simply honking at them will make them more angry as well and perhaps make them worse.  But you can make the call 1000% better if you think about it after your initial reaction and before action out on that reaction.

I am not the best writer and this is sort of confusing stuff but I can tell you that this is not deep and hard to understand.  We all have something called a conscious which tells us good from bad and it can be trusted most of the time.  There are no laws or rules, and every situation is different, but our minds are more than up to the task.

Be a better person, don't just react, and think more about actions - you will find long lasting and fulfilling happiness which will daily reward you for the rest of your life.

November 4, 2011 - Why Good Always Beats Evil. 

If you think about is as a foot race, then Evil is a great sprinter and Good is a marathon runner.  Evil can take control in an instant while Good often takes months or year to prevail. 

It is exactly the difference with quick cheap happiness versus long lasting fulfilling happiness or puppy love compared to deep meaningful love.  The list goes on and on; so why are quick emotions and actions so vulnerable to problems and often become Evil acts?

It all comes down to action versus rest.  Quick is easy and Action requires work.  It is easier to sit in a chair than to get up and walk, but sitting all the time is unhealthy because our bodies need exercise. 

Evil requires a little action, but since it works so quickly, there is no need to work at and maintain it.  You need very little training or assistance to be an Expert at Evil and often, there is short term reward for a very tiny effort.  How much easier to just take what you need rather than working for it. 

Evil does not build strong relations based on trust.  Evil is destructive by nature and opposite to building.  Someone or something has to lose so that evil can triumph.  Only a very few people can share in any of Evil's advantages.

Good, on the other hand, takes action and co-operation to succeed.  Good builds everyone and lends itself to team work and strong bonds.  All this work takes a long time to mature but once in place has the power of numbers and public opinion. Not many will support a robber in need but most feel good about giving to the needy.

Here is an extreme example of Evil, can you see why it will fail in the long run?

But the biggest threat we face is the control of seed and food moving out of the hands of farmers and communities and into a few corporate hands. Monopoly control of cottonseed and the introduction of genetically engineered Bt cotton has already given rise to an epidemic of farmers’ suicides in India. A quarter-million farmers have taken their lives because of debt induced by the high costs of nonrenewable seed, which spins billions of dollars of royalty for firms like Monsanto. Taken from article of  The Nation an India Newspaper. 

Corporate greed is not only destroying culture in India but around the world.  While a few investors become wealthy, millions perhaps even billions will suffer from their evil tendency to monopolize.  This will ultimately lead to an uprising and investors will lose everything.

But, you say, some investors will simply move their money to other large and greedy corporations.  But in today's economic troubles who will have more when the grocery stores become empty?  People who can grow things and make things with their hands or a rich cat with tons of money which may suddenly become worthless.

It should be apparent to everyone by now that capitalism has suffered greatly at the hands of corporate greed.  Entrepreneur economics is a more descriptive and civilized method to build success and  prosperity.  What the above article was pointing out is that greed on a large scale is not sustainable.

Then there is the personal damage done to the evil doers which they hide from everyone but cannot escape from personally.  Being evil or helping evil, destroys long term happiness and contentment replacing it with a never ending desire for a quick fix which mysteriously gets harder and harder to find.

October 30, 2011 - Only need can produce action. 

If you are sitting comfortably on an easy chair after a great dinner and are enjoying the peace and quit of a warm summer evening without a care in the world, then what might cause you to get up and do something else?  Only something that you feel you need to do.  It might be the need to lay down, or if you get thirsty, or someone calls to you for help with something but it you will not move until you determine that you need to.

You are hungry so you need to eat, and once you have eaten enough so that you are no longer hungry then you stop.  We all say if I just had this or that thing then I would be happy.  Well guess what? Once you get what you need then you no longer care about it and will only be motivated to go on in life by replacing that need with a new one.  The rich can never have enough cash and the powerful can never have enough power.

So where is the up side to this?  It is in seeing difficulty as opportunity.  We are not interested in learning more unless learning is the only way to reach a goal that we want.  Also if something is too easy to learn then you will think of it as boring.  Take tic tac toe for instance, there is no world championship of this game and only very young children enjoy it.

The greater the challenge and the harder the path to reaching a goal the more satisfaction you will obtain when you reach that goal.  Remember the story about the King who wanted anything he touched to turn to gold.  How did that work out?  Would you want to play a game if you knew in advance that you always win.

Every mistake is a blessing because it helps you achieve greater accuracy, and every accident makes you more careful, and every lie eventually will lead you to honesty.  Why, because the misery that comes to a person who cheats, or lies eventually either destroys that person or they change, and once they see the light and change, they will can find true happiness.

A crook may find temporary and even extreem happiness after stealing a lot of money or valuable merchandise but the happiness he feels is as temporary as a drug induced high and is alwasy followed by deep depression and dispare.  True happiness lasts a very long time and does not create depression when it fades. It is value added or gravy to a good life and what everyone is really is looking for. 

October 21, 2011 - My excellent facebook experience. 

wispering I have always been somewhat of an explorer going where no man has before so to speak.  It sometimes gets me into trouble.  This week I decided to find out if I could message all 130 of my facebook friends with the same message, so I carefully added each name to the list until at last I had every friend added as recipient.

What I had no idea would happen was that one of my friends replied to all and so Pandora's box was opened.  Soon other friends started responding to all and a rather lively debate emerged which led to some of my friends becoming uncomfortable and leaving the discussion.  It seemed I could not delete the original message nor could I un-invite any recipients.  They had to un-invite themselves.  Also there was no way to delete individual replies which some found to be offensive.

All I could do was add guidance and apology to dampen the obvious hostility and name calling that erupted.  In the end the conversation turned towards tolerance and some apologizing among my friends healed most of the tension. 

It showed me that intelligent, caring, loving, folks with different opinions have a great deal of trouble with their initial interactions to apposing ideas.  And they expressed remorse for not giving more thought to their initial reactions.  The number one cause of unhappiness and chaos is quick reactions. 

If you follow four simple steps you will be well on your way to happiness.
1. Catch bad reactions and identify that they are real and need to be controlled.
2. Ask yourself if the reaction was going to be helpful to you or harmful.
3. Consider how else you may be able to handle the situation.
4. Do the right thing.

You can read more about these steps in Secret 2 Stuck.

All my initial reactions would have been disastrous as I would have added fire to the flames but fortunately I have been practicing the above steps and avoided a complete melt down. 

The second thing that became apparent to me is that we must be able to change what we think from time to time and grow in our understanding of others and their ideas.  I for instance can go back and change any of my 72 secrets to be more current with my current understanding of them.  I can edit and change everything in this blog and do for the sake of clarity and helpfulness.  I am often amazed at the things I write a couple weeks later when I re-read them so I am constantly editing this entire web site.

The thing is we all make mistakes but as long as our hearts are in the right place we can feel proud of ourselves even when we screw up.  Proud that we are open mined enough and able to see how we can improve ourselves.  This is essential to a feeling of well being as none of us are perfect.

October 14, 2011 - There are as many stories as story tellers.

wispering There is a child hood game that begins with 10 or more kids sitting in a row of chairs and passing along a story by whispering it to their neighbor so that no one else can hear it.  Even if they all try to repeat the story without changing a single word the story always comes out differently by the time it has been re-told a dozen times or so.

Research in psychology also shows that we often do not remember our own reality.  We think we remember how we were raised and who our friends were and how we felt as children but much of the actual truth and reality have been altered.  Not to mention that we take reality for granted all the time and see politics, religion, news and even the weather differently depending on our mood and current situation.

What this illustrates is that things like love and truth can have very different meaning and importance depending our your understanding of reality.  Many times when a story teller is trying to express a certain feeling or value he will use an analogy or even make a fictional story up (sometimes called a fable) which when told clarifies the meaning the story teller is trying to tell. 

All writings like the News Paper, Dictionary, Novels, or Laws are subject to interpretation and try to follow literature rules as well as clear grammar to guide us to a truth or concept.  Oral stories and lectures and teachings also follow these same rules but if the teller is not reading from a page then often the point is less clear.  Even when a person thinks they are reading something they often skip over words or slightly rearrange words that can change the meaning and the reader is not even aware of his mistake.

That is why the 10 commandments were a more harmful than helpful writing.  A good person does not need a law or rule to understand good from bad.  We can all sense right from wrong because of the reward system that gives us feedback information.  Bad makes us feel bad and evil, good makes us feel good and happy.

Religion has many more rules than just the 10 commandments, even more than the US government.  Every one of them is subject to interpretation and labeling this or that as bad completely deprives us from using our own good judgment.

When looking for a moral compass look no further than your own conscious, unless we have some brain damage or missing parts, then we will always know right from wrong.  The real question is how will we use that knowledge? 
October 8, 2011 - The question is why

question Why am I spending time in this way, for what purpose or ulterior motive?  The answer is complex but I will try to make it as brief as possible. 

I was raised a born again Christian but ran into real problems, as a teen, believing in what I began to believe was brain washing or behavioral modification.  I just could no longer believe in spirituality or God or anything supernatural.  

The main problem in my belief was the concept, that whether we are given a choice to follow or not; we should not be condemned to Hell and eternal suffering for simply making a bad choice or not even knowing there was a choice to be made.  That did not feel like something which a God or higher source of intellect would create or condone.

I mean think about it, forever is a really long time, especially considering how short a time say 100 years of life is by comparison.  So maybe a bad choice could carry a 2000 year penalty and then another chance at life to make the right decision.  Eternal suffering for a blink of an eye in time, no way I would buy into anything that irrational then, now or ever.

I do believe that religion gave me moral sensibility which helps me to be a better more caring person, but being a non believer, I felt left out of the good parts of spiritualism or religion or what ever.  I could not find anything acceptable as a substitute for folks just getting together to think of how to improve their lives, others and the community.  Some non profit organizations come close but inevitably there are religion connections or spiritual strings as a basis of morals rather than to study wisdom without spin.

So, I decided to create my own, that way I can keep it from on topic.  My primary incentive for writing this Blog/Self-Help web site was to document for myself a way of living, that is not preached or shoved down my throat.  I really enjoyed reading the book named '72 Names of God' but at the same time found it very disturbing.  I wanted to capture the good ideas from the book and leave out all the Judaism and Spiritualism so I could go back over it from time to time without having to spend all the time and effort of filtering out the spin.

It is like the real information was encoded so that nobody could understand it, the '72 Names of God' itself was written for spiritual folks. The focus seems to support Jewish spiritual seed values.  The book seems to completely miss the hidden underlying wisdom and benefit for which it was originally written and is a complete turn off to non believers.

Our kids and the world need a way to find happiness and fulfillment without having to join a cult or being forced to believe a lot of stuff that sounds a lot like Santa or the Easter Bunny than reality.  There is a need for strait forward advice and wisdom to help us live in these modern times successfully.  And that is why I started, and why I continue to write this Blog and these Self-Help secrets.

It is not my intention to put down religion and I encourage any religious or spiritual readers to take full advantage of these hidden truths.  They are the same principals which all major religious and spiritual groups strive for.  It is just that they follow a different path to the same goals.  Indeed if you are religious or spiritual then your road should be easier than that of the non believer since your community and fellowship is so well established. For more information on my feeling about religion click here.

Anyone can be happy if they learn and practice the 72 secrets to happiness as shown in the table above.  Kabbalah which is not a religion is  heavily influenced by Jewish culture, language, and faith.  Never the less the wisdom underlying the stories and teachings have great mental wisdom which can quite literally make and keep you happy throughout your life. 

October 3, 2011 - Be a teacher not a preacher!

Preaching is equivalent to judging.  It says here are the values and aspirations that you should be striving for and apparently have not gotten because they need to be pushed into your consciousness.

Teaching on the other hand is sharing information that you have found of value to yourself.  Whether an individual is listening and gains any value from you, is completely up to the individual, and should be in no way forced upon them.

before Teachers are far too often actually preachers in disguise.  They give tests and expect students to learn or be punished.  This is why our public school system is so dysfunctional.  It is a product of where our society.  The only way to combat it as a parents, is to take an active role in your child's education and counter these preaching techniques taught in school, by being a great role model and rewarding good behavior rather than punishing perceived bad behavior.

Maybe a better word is educator.  But being an educator means that you have something of value to offer.  What exactly does something of value mean?  You cannot help your child with math if you never learned math and have no particular interest in learning about math.  You can ask your child what they learned and if they are having problems understanding math.  If they need help, you can talk to their teacher or find some other source of help.  But to just abandon them is of no value.  You can explain to your child what you might do if you were in their position and this requires you to understand what position your child is in.  Working with and understanding another's needs is of great value.

This, of course, is how you should behave around everyone.  You need to realize that they are not you and your values may not be theirs.  When a friend complains about a problem; then you cannot simply explain how it is not a problem or say just get over it or move on.  First you need to  understand about why your friend is having a problem; and while exploring what your friend is going through, and based on the history of your friend, you may find opportunity to share a similar experience that you had or simply offer understanding.

September 23, 2011 - To Tell the Truth or Not

This week I have been trying to get at the seed level behind Secret 25 Truth .  Probably the only word more used and less understood is Love.  The Webster dictionairy defines truth as follows:

Definition of TRUTH

a archaic : fidelity, constancyb : sincerity in action, character, and utterance
a (1) : the state of being the case : fact (2) : the body of real things, events, and facts : actuality (3) often capitalized : a transcendent fundamental or spiritual realityb : a judgment, proposition, or idea that is true or accepted as true <truths of thermodynamics>c : the body of true statements and propositions
a : the property (as of a statement) of being in accord with fact or realityb chiefly British : true 2c : fidelity to an original or to a standard

Examples of Truth
At some point you have to face the simple truth that we failed.
Their explanation was simpler but came closer to the truth.
The article explains the truth about global warming.
A reporter soon discovered the truth.
Her Story contains a grain of truth but also lots of exaggeration. 

End of Webster Definition  

Truth is a perception based on personal bias and understanding according to past events and experiences.  There is no black and white, truth or lies, right or wrong in a legal sense.  That is to say there is no absolute definition of what is true, only oppinions about the truth.

But you say, "It is absolutly truth that 1 plus 1 equals 2 and to say it is any other value is not telling the truth."  It is a fact in mathematics but only because it was decided so a long time ago; but there is no truth or lie only agreement or disagreement of theory.

If only life were so easy to understand as the science of mathematics.  Each individual is born and raised with different standards and values by different parents in different houses.  Sometimes identical twins born minutes apart have very similar opinions and likes and dislikes, but for the rest of us, there is little about our entire life that matches any other human being.

One of the main reasons I like Kabbalah is because unlike religions, Kabbalists believe that truth and morality are situational based on current values and conditions.  It is wrong to kill unless of course it is to save your own life while being innocently attacked.

You should always tell your spouse the truth.  What if she says do you like the special meal I spent all day preparing for you which I am so proud of myself for making, and you just think it was ordinary?  What if a young child's parents were hideously tortured for hours and asks you, did they die quickly?

There are infinite situations that require judgment and situational awareness, and that makes telling the truth, or what you believe to be the truth, one of the most difficult tasks in life and relationships.  And then it suddenly becomes clear that truth is a measure of honesty not based on absolute facts.

It is the reason why we say what we do, not what we say that is critical.  If the reason is selfish or dishonest for personal gain, then most of us would say it is wrong or that you lied about something.  If the reason is to protect the innocent or to support friends or loved ones then it may be a white lie.  If the reason is because you believe what you say then it may not be the truth but it is not a lie.

Community and particularly relationships are based on trust.  You need to have courage and judgment to tell the truth as you see it when the information is needed by the relationship.  You should never hide facts just because it make you look bad or when someone will be harmed by your silence. 

Ask yourself if you are proud of how you answered a question or ashamed, your own conscious will usually be the best guide to what is right.  That is why the Kabbalist say that the 10 commandments were never written.  Moses was a very moral man and all 10 commandments are simple moral values which all of us already possess.  We did not need them written into laws.  Making them law freed men from having to make honest judgments, they could now stone a person for breaking the law without worry of moral or factual reasoning.  It makes some people righteous and others immoral based on written judgments without regard to truth or lies.

You stop at a stop sign because it makes us all safer but what if someone is dying in your car and you are trying to get to the emergency room?  There is no substitution for common sense and honesty.  Do unto others as you would have them do to you.  You may want them to tell a white lie when it makes you feel better.  You most certainly do not want them to steal from you and say they did not.

September 19, 2011 - The Meaning of Life

What is the meaning of life?  Religious and spiritual folks often sight this as the reason why they believe there must be a God or higher being whom created all of this for a purpose.

During my college days I often thought about this question and one of my ideas involved what I called the contrast theory.  It went something like this: 

If all there was in the universe was blackness then the appearance of a white glowing ball would allow some understanding that black was not white and white was not black.  Now adding more colors, the understanding by comparison, grows infinitely more complex.  Red is not white, blue is not green but green is a combination of blue and yellow which is not black.

Each new variation adds to the richness and complexity of all.  Our universe is almost infinite in it's variety to the point that we wonder what else might exist.

More recently, I have added a little bit to my contrast theory to include movement.  Your eyes need to move in order to see.  Here is a quote from Wikipedia -

Varieties and purpose of movement "There are three main basic types of eye movements: Irregular movements at 30-70 per second, or irregular excursions of 20 seconds of arc Saccades, which are worth a few minutes of arc, moving at regular intervals about one second Slow irregular drifts up to 6 minutes of arc These movements are needed to provide a new set of rods and cones, because, if it was fixed on one set, the signal would be cancelled due to adaptation of the stimulus after some time. Saccades are faster than convergence and smooth pursuit."

Without change there is no perception.  Lets say for a moment there was a Creator whom existed before creation and was perfect in every way.  Then why would he need to change anything?  Maybe the problem was that absolute perfection did not have any change or contrast. (ie. no imperfection)  This is why I would not want to go to heaven, as defined by Christians, because it sounds like the ultimate boring environment.  No sickness, no problems, no adventure, everything always and forever perfect.

Perfection needs a little chaos to help it understand the meaning of perfection.  Many scientist believe that the big bang is just a cycle and that someday all of our galaxies will return to a single point and again explode.  In deed if there is one thing predominant in all the universe it is oscillations.

We all have bio-rhythms, light and radio waves produce information, good times and bad times, sickness and health, everything and anything you can think of has cycles.  Life itself and the meaning of life needs change to exist.  So what is the meaning of life?  To me it is that we are all on a journey between up and down, good and bad, happy and sad.

These reasons, and others, have led be to question why a perfect God or Creator would not allow free will as so many religions and Kabbalist believe?  Kabbalah in particular claims that we only believe we have free will - and that thinking we have free will is the only way we can correct our vessels.  It is not the intension of this blog to correct or criticize any faith or creed, my beliefs do not have to be yours, I am simply stating for those who are looking for meaning and not inclined to get it from spiritualism, this web site is a viable answer to the meaning of life.

What fun would gambling be if the cards were not random and the outcome of the dice were known before the through. So to me, reaching heaven would simply be the end of one cycle and the beginning of another.  Life is all that part between the start and the end of each cycle.   

September 10, 2011 - Tomorrow marks the 10th anniversary of 911.

This week I will talk a little about fearing the future and why you should not allow yourself to become overly concerned about any future event.

To have a calm and happy life you need to plan a little and have some insurance but you cannot think too much about what if.  The truth is that each and every one of us cannot know for certain if they will even be alive tomorrow.  If we all worried about that possibility then we would all be very unhappy.

The same holds true about our jobs, relationships, health, and a host of things that we do not have complete control over.  So each time we worry about something that has not happened yet and in fact is not even likely to happen then we bring sadness and anxiety into our present for no good reason.

The truth is that you will have to deal with what ever comes your way in the present,  so worrying about it, was a waist of time in your past.  Time you could have used to enjoy life. 

My wife is a psychologist and she tells patients with high anxiety to stop watching and reading the news for a week, to show them how much more relaxed they will become.  We live in modern times with all sorts of safety nets and most every day problems can be handled as they occur.  That is where the saying, 'Cross your bridges when you get to them', came from.

And while you are at it, stop worrying so much about what others are doing.  Even if they are family members or close friends.  We have enough to think about taking care of ourselves without adding the co-dependency of taking on everyone else's problems.  If they ask for help then what ever you offer will be a 100 times better than any advice you give them without their asking.

Most of the tools in the 72 secrets to happiness deal with responsibility and pro-active behavior.  If you have an active mind then read a few of them and work on finding true happiness and let tomorrow take care of itself.

September 4, 2011 - This Blog is intended for a non spiritual and a non religious audience.  Atheists should feel right at home here.

I am not promoting Kabbalah or religion or spiritualism or any ism.  I believe that being happy and living a rewarding full life depends on good judgment and a fair amount of wisdom.  It just so happens that Kabbalah is the least offensive source of (wisdom and human values), to non believers and atheists.  I am taking their tools and rules a step further by filtering out all offensive language and ideology that is spiritual in nature, so that myself and my readers can go over this important wisdom in the future without the need to filter out all the spin.

Some of my spiritual friends have said, "You just added the spin that all this wisdom is not related to God!"  My reply is as stated above this blog is not written for them.  They have enough of there own material including the Bible, Koran, Zohar, Torah etc.  For the rest of us, there is an extreme shortage of well written sources to great wisdom without reference to the soul, or to faith in a higher energy than ourselves.

Even Kabbalah seems to constantly contradict itself by saying that we are all just puppets being manipulated into perfect souls by pre-known plans of creation. The Creator appears to give us a choice only to trick us into thinking we had a choice to begin with. WOW really!

What I do know is that for whatever the reason that these great thinkers sat around and wrote down basic laws governing human interaction, thinking, motivation, behaviors, they really nailed a lot of very important rules, that just like gravity, must be followed in order to have a good and meaningful life.  If you break these rules then you will always end up a miserable unhappy and unfulfilled person thinking that life sucks.

There is a very clear and easy way to prove all these tools and rules.  The results of following any of these secret tools becomes obvious very quickly, the results of breaking the rules and ignoring these tools give equal if not swifter penalty.  Once you learn the rules and begin to understand the tools a little you will see for yourself just how blindly most of us have gone through life before being exposed to the truth behind re-active and pro-active behavior.

I do not want anyone to believe that this blog or these 72 secrets for happiness are the only way to find happiness because many humans have found happiness on their own.  They independently discovered the laws of re-active and pro-active behavior without the need for this written material.

They learned early on that being responsible for their future was important and worked hard at being and staying in control of their own destinies, often by trial and error, but sometimes with the help of a special teacher or wise parent.  Someone or some book got them on the right path.

I have not created any of these tools or rules, they just exist and I am trying my best to document them for reference, as a road map to success, without the need for a lot of experimentation.  While the tools and rules are not that complex there are a lot of them and it is easy to get off the trail.

So this is written for the rest of us who need a little reminder and help from time to time.

August 28, 2011 - Kabbalah is not a religion and you do not have to join anything to be a Kabbalist.

Anyone who gives unselfishly of themselves or their possessions is already a Kabbalist, even if they are also a priest or Budist etc.  It is what you are not what organization or movement you have joined or believe in.  You are man because you are male, or woman because you are female, there is no choice or decision just the fact of what you are.

The study of Kabbalah is a study of great wisdom and the only path to true happiness.  Religious people must study Kabbalah to obtain spiritualism whether they are aware of it or not.  Non Religious people must study Kabbalah to obtain happiness.

You do not have to know that Kabbalah exists or read any books or join any study groups to be following the ways of Kabbalah.  But the only way to achieve lasting and meaningful happiness is to practice the principles that are known as Kabbalah.

My 72 Secrets for happiness are the building block and practice of Kabbalah without the Religious or spiritual influence of Man's prejudices.  Kabbalah is not the color of wisdom but rather the root of wisdom and is essential to successful living.  The primary message is accountability and generosity.

You and you alone are responsible for your welfare and happiness, no body else can or will give you anything meaningful or lasting, it is up to you.  The primary way to improve your life is to become a more giving and generous person whom is true to himself first.

You should never give up all your possession and live in a monastery, you must have income and security to give meaningfully to others.  If you do not get; what will you be able to give.  The problem is that most people who do find fortune, squander it on themselves, and that kills any chance of a meaningful or happy life.

There are only two paths to great wisdom, one is a path of misery and despair as your lack of wisdom will drain all happiness from you, and the other is by learning to share which will reward you with great abundance and happiness. 

The path of sharing however takes a lot of work and is contrary to everything we crave and even to our common sense.  You really need to have something like my http://72secrets.com, or if you are religious, books explaining the principles of Kabbalah, or you will lose sight of the wise way to live and end up traveling the hard way.  This is not my opinion but facts as recorded in writing for the last 4000 years.

You do not need to believe in gravity to understand that your belief in it is totally unimportant.  It is simply a fact.  You do not have to believe that being responsible will bring you happiness but just try being irresponsible for a while and you will soon be miserable.

It is nearly impossible to become wise without support from your family and friends.  And it is impossible without the effort and study necessary to stay on a rewarding path to great happiness.  I am writing this blog primarily for my own future study but also to share with non believers and atheists a path to happiness other than religion.

In Kabbalah there is no heaven or hell, or judgment, or reckoning.  If you examine the 72 secrets you will find only hard work, responsibility, and generosity.  The 72 secrets will help you develop these skill and can literally change your life from misery and despair into lasting and fulfilling happiness.

August 20, 2011 - Today I posted Trapped and it got me to thinking about doubt.

Doubt is almost always thought of in a negative light.  Just as laziness is rarely seen as a positive attribute.  But these are two powerful tools when used correctly.  We do not want to simply follow every suggestion and believe every comment we hear and we should not drop everything and work hard on a project that is of no benefit; so we have our doubts and we must be convinced before we break into a sweat.

There is always a middle ground between discipline and pleasure.  What would be the point of working your entire life if you could not enjoy any of it's rewards.  On the other hand if you never work or plan anything how long do you really believe it will be before the money and fun runs out.

There is a balance between doubt and certainty as well.  If we find ourselves believing too deeply in anything then we are out of balance because the truth is never at the extreme edge of anything.  Some one will always say, 'is killing not an absolute and an extreme example of wrong doing, and can we not be convinced that this truth is absolute without any doubts?'  What if you are forced  into killing someone to save your child from being killed, and killing that person was the only way to stop them? 

before Doubting everyone and everything all the time is foolish and leads to depression and misery.  Being too religious causes a person be closed minded and trapped in dogma while being an atheist is also closed minded and assumes that one has total and complete knowledge of all that exists or could ever exist.

We sometimes think we are making great progress in living and finding happiness only to relapse and feel that success or happiness is beyond our reach.  This is normal and the way it should be.  Only by doubt in ourselves can we find the motivation to succeed and only by experiencing success can we convince our selves that success is a worth while goal.

Laziness can keep us from wasting valuable time on worthless work but can also cause us to miss out on great rewards that can only be achieved by working hard.  Missing out is an extreme of laziness and extremes are always bad, working all day everyday is equally as bad.  Moderating work and laziness
should be our goal.  Moderating doubt and opinion is what helps us in approximating truth.

A general rule of thumb is to avoid being caught in any extreme way of thinking and to have some faith in our natural abilities to find balance.  Start by giving yourself a brake once in a while, and assuring yourself that you are not the best or the worst, not the strongest or the weakest, but as long as you are at least trying to stay away from extremes, that is really all anyone can expect of you.  The saying that no one can love you if you do not love yourself first can be extended to; no one will even like you if you do not like yourself.

Now if you have not already done so, go and read secret number 17 named Trapped.  I think you will enjoy it and it will help you to find long lasting true happiness.

August 14, 2011 - Why are we humans different than animals?

Animals have brains, they can learn, they remember, so what exactly is different?  They do not invent new ideas, they do not have insight, and they never question their purpose in life.   When someone says - live for the moment, well that is all animals ever do, they are always in the moment, never thinking about yesterday or tomorrow or what if. 

It is a great mystery and one that leads us to belief that something or someone greater than ourselves, a sort of spiritual channel, allows us to create things and think things that never existed before, some force or intelligence that is somehow transmitted to us or channeled through us. 

I will be the first to tell you that we cannot know everything that exists, to say anything is impossible is foolish, but to create fiction as an answer is equally foolish.  In these matters I would have to say I am agnostic because to say I was atheistic would be to say that I know for sure there is no higher intelligence or influence other than what I believe is true.

Kabbalah teaches that the Creator is pure love.  Judgment is not love so there is no judgment, expectation is judgment, disappointment is definitely judgment.  There is no right or wrong only choices.

Religion on the other hand is full of judgment and fear of everlasting damnation.  It sounds a lot more like fiction to me.  What kind of higher force would create everlasting torture for making bad choices.

Here's the thing, does it really matter?  Lets just accept that we human's have a gift that animals do not possess and stop trying to guess where it comes from.  We accept gravity and have no clue what it is or how it works other than the larger things are the stronger it's gravity.  Are we going to war over who's belief system is better in regards to the theory of gravity?

It is important is to acknowledge that we do have a gift, and that we should use it to the best of our abilities.  Back 4000 years ago or so, there were a lot less distractions, science, technology, and superstitions to impede clear thinking on the subject of what it was to be human. 

Wisdom and true intelligence are pure gold when it comes to successful living and the pursuit of happiness.  It is the opposite of superstition, religion, and ego.  The greatest enemy of wisdom is ego.  If you study the 72 Names of God or my interpretation of the 72 secrets for happiness, then you will find that the ego is almost always the main barrier to true and lasting happiness.

August 6, 2011 - More on Blockage and how it affects your Happiness.

I was watching a video from the Kabbalah University and it struck me that while I have been translating one secret at a time, I really needed to skip ahead to Blockage since it is so important and critical to each and every one of us.

Look at the way a beaver creates a dam and residence.  First he builds his house and a secret doorway under it which will eventually be under water.  Then he builds the dam one stick at a time.  Eventually after time he blocks enough of the water to make a pond that fills to the point where his home is no longer high and dry but appears to be floating on the surface with the entrance to his home hidden under water.

While in this case building a dam one stick at a time was good to the beaver it was not be so good for the flowers and grass that used to grow near the creek and are now dead and under water.  Your happiness is like the flowers and your ego is like the beaver.  What is good for the beaver is bad for the flowers that are now under water, and your cleaver ego has a secret entrance which cannot be seen from above the pond.

The secret entrance protects the beaver just as the secrets to happiness protects your ego.  They are secrets so you do not  know to use them, and if you did not notice the building of the blockage, then you do not know how to deconstruct it.

Enough of the analogy, the fact is we all have blockage to fulfillment and happiness and it builds up slowly over time.  In fact the older we get the more blockage can build up.  That is why it is said that old folks are stuck in their ways or stubborn etc.  Not everyone is, but all those who do not do something about the build up are. 

before The culprit here is your ego, and that is why you often hear it said, that great power and wealth lead to corruption.  The more you have the more you want. 

The results are always the same, when the ego gets it's way lasting and fulfilling happiness goes away.  Sure a rich person can buy a little quick happiness in the form of drugs, or sex, or possessions, but this happiness never seems enough and just as quickly vanishes leaving a need for another quick fix which by the way keeps getting harder and harder to find.

What we all need to do is realize that the we have blockage to happiness and identify small pieces of blockage which we can remove.  Over time we will restore the creek and leave the beaver high and dry.  Sorry, I regressed to an analogy, but over time if we remove the built up blockage we will regain the happiness of youth and expose our ego as the obstacle of finding true long lasting fulfilling happiness. 

Every January 1st folks make resolutions to change but rarely do.  If you want to find happiness then you need to make every day the first hour of January and every day find something that is causing you emotional stress and find some way to correct it.  Do not take on too big a task at once because sometimes the dam might break and cause a lot of destruction.  Find small ways to change that create a more positive you.

Say 'Hi' to someone you normally would never talk to especially if that will make the person's day go better.  Stop cheating, stop judging so much, try to reduce bad habits.  But not all at once, keep the improvements small and see the benefit of each, giving you confidence and strength to take on bigger problems.

First as soon as you start making improvements you will stop building a bigger dam, second by removing obstacles to happiness you will start feeling better about life.  With time you will become the master of your own destiny, in control and happier than you ever though possible.

July 31, 2011 - Quick Happiness vs Long Term Happiness

This week I came across a concept that I believe is overlooked by most of us including myself.  We tend to think that things make us happy or sad or indifferent etc.   I now see that there is a huge difference between what I will call flash happiness and lasting fulfilling happiness.

There is no question that when a drug addict first takes a hit that there is a lot of happiness and even a sense of euphoria.  But this kind of happiness does not last and has more down side than up so I would call it flash happiness or maybe even false happiness.  That is an extreme example but what about cutting in line because a friend of yours is near the front and you can just join them.  Again you are happy that you did not stand in line but everyone behind you is unhappy with you and whether you acknowledge it or not that negative energy is preventing you from true happiness.  Cheating at anything gnaws at your self esteem and self respect and the ability to like yourself and others.

There is an analogy that uses a light bulb which may help explain.  The way a light bulb makes light, is with a filament that resists the electricity.  If the resistance is too low the bulb will flash and then go out.  There will be more light than usual for a short period of time followed by no light at all. To get good long lasting light you need to have enough resistance to last and not burn out.

I see another aspect to this as well and it comes from my years as an electrical engineer.  It has to do with waves, or highs and lows.  We all have biorhythms consisting of physical, emotional, and intellectual cycles.  They are as natural and unavoidable as the waves of the ocean.  But think about a roller coaster for a moment, the higher you go the further and faster you will come back down.  When very large variations occur there is almost always happiness or a sense of well being followed by sadness or a sense of hopelessness.

But if the roller coaster had brakes for the down hill and a motor for the uphill which kept it going at a constant speed would there be no fun?  Is there any fun in a Ferris wheel?

So lets put these two concepts together.  Resistance and cycles of ups and downs.  If you resist cutting in line, or taking drugs, or eating too much ice cream, or buying everything you ever wanted with that new credit card; well then you may miss out on some great fun but what will you be left with?

That is not to say that you cannot have fun - it says you should think about it a little first and be sure that what you are about to do is not going to send you on an emotional roller coaster.  If it is then resist the temptation to just go for it and you will save yourself a lot of misery.

True lasting happiness has to be built slowly over time.  It takes effort often in the form of resistance to destructive habits that prevent happiness from ever becoming lasting.  You want to go high and stay high with small normal variations, but like rough weather at sea, sometimes you can lose everything in one big storm.  When you see dangerous clouds steer clear and go for smoother sunnier waters.  Resist the temptation to see how much fun the storm and it's huge waves might offer.

July 24, 2011 - Small is Everything

I just have come across a little piece of information that is mostly overlooked and for that reason another secret to happiness.  It was right in the open and most of us have heard it hundreds of times, depending on how old you are, yet for some reason the importance or significance of the principle has not been sufficient for the impact and importance to stick and be used.

First I will quote the actual paragraph which I was reading.  "Suppose your house were on fire and you had time to save some of your possessions, but not all of them.  Would you throw up your hands and say, Forget it! If I can't save it all, I'll just let it burn. ? Or would you run into the house and grab what you could?  ... Alone, we cannot possibly alleviate all the pain and suffering that exist. But this is not a reason to stop trying.  If we can help even one person, it is as though we've saved the whole world."  The Way: by Michael Berg

Bear with me here because this is deep material.  From my studies, I know that the main principle of Kabbalah is that the external world out side our own minds is not our responsibility or even our goal.  Our only task, and there is just one, our only task is to learn how to give without the need for benefit.  Now certainly one way to learn this, is by practicing a little giving or helping etc., but how we learn to give is not important; saving the world might be one way or helping someone in distress might be another.

What ever task you wish to accomplish in life is never the thinking about it.  You get things done by doing something.  Not everything at once but just one thing at a time until you reach the goal. To save the world would take a large effort by many people but someone would still have to start the effort.  Someone would have to take the first tiny single step and then hundreds of individual steps until the goal was reached.

You could have local or national meetings and TV ads asking for donations and movie stars trying to raise awareness and money, but none of that accomplishes even the tiniest portion of the first actual physical proactive work towards the feeding of a single child or adult.  We love to plan and organize and set lofty goals but rarely actually begin the process necessary to make any of this come true. Why is this such a difficult task?

Now we get to the core of the lesson.  We are born needing to eat and for someone to feed us.  We are raised where adults see to our needs and protect us. We are takers by nature and even when we give, it is for feeling good about ourselves, or looking good in the eyes of others so that we are approved of and looked up to as a good and giving person. 

That is not to say we never give.  A mother often gives to her child because of love.  A parent will often give presents to their children out of a pure sense of giving.  But how do those same parents feel about giving presents to a stranger?  They will probably want recognition or expect some kind of praise for their actions and so that type of giving is for getting - good feelings - acceptance - favors - something but not just for the sake of giving. 

The twist is this, giving even for the wrong reasons can make you feel good.  Just as stealing merchandise from a store can raise your adrenaline and make you feel alive, but when we do things for the wrong reasons this type of happiness is short lived, and like being addicted on drugs, there is a withdrawal and depression after the giving or taking stops. 

Receiving happiness for the sake of giving does not have a down side.  The happiness just keeps coming and coming.  So getting back to the original quote, why is saving one person equal to saving the entire population.  It is because learning how to earn the means to help, with the intension of using your income or ability to help for the sake of saving a stranger, is transformational!  And I might add, no easy task.  Transforming your desire to receive for self alone; to receiving for the ability to give is the stuff of saints like Mother Teresa.

Just because the task is monumental does not make it impossible and the rewards are extreme happiness.  Even approaching this goal is rewarding.  Not to mention essential if you are ever to help even the second person, yet alone the entire world.  You must learn to read before you can enjoy books.  You must learn to give before you can save the world.  You must learn to give if you are ever to be truly happy.

The 72 secrets to happiness are all the tools that you will need to reach this goal.  The journey is long and requires a lot of work and effort.  Two words that few of us want to hear are work and effort and are the only way to get anywhere worth going.  The up side is increased happiness with each tiny step forward that just keeps on giving to those that have the desire to cross the finish line.

All too often we make a little progress and then say to ourselves, maybe I deserve a little rest, and let me relax and enjoy my accomplishments.  That may be a good idea with physical  effort but is deadly to mental work and effort.  Complacency is the biggest enemy to happiness.  If you want to get to your destination of happiness, then resting will only prolong the effort and make it more difficult to obtain.

Develop a hunger and desire to be happy so that you have the motivation to achieve it.  If you were starving and you found some food, cooked it, and put it on the table, would you say to yourself that was a lot of trouble, let me rest a while before I eat? 

There is an old wise tale that goes like this, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.  If you like being miserable and only having short spurts of happiness followed by mostly depression and misery, then let the house burn down, other wise see what you can save, it may end up being everything.
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